About “I Choose Us” Program

(Secular Version)

“I Choose Us” (ICU) is an evidence-informed marriage programme which has empowered thousands of married and engaged couples to deepen their Love Connection, affair-proof their marriage, enhance their communication and conflict management skills, and gain awareness on their unhealthy thinking and behavior.

ICU is a unique programme based on the premise that marital satisfaction can be greatly increased if spouses are able to meet the need for Love and Respect in each other. A scale known as The Love and Respect Marriage Scale (LRMS) was developed and validated and published (see Louis J.P.,  & Louis, K. McD.,  (2021): The development of the love and respect marriage scale. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy,                https://doi:10.1080/0092623X.2021.1963362 ). The LRMS is able to measure various facets of Love and Respect with a good degree of sensitivity and precision.

For couples with long standing difficulties the programme also taps into the principles of schema therapy and couples are able to identify which negative schema/s are preventing a spouse from meeting the need for Love and Respect in his/her partner which are obstacles in intimacy and long-term happiness. Key teaching points for ICU workshops are backed by credible research and interspersed with impactful movie scenes for a unique learning experience.

The ICU curriculum was featured in the Strengthening Families Curriculum Resource Guide website of the Administration for Children and Families under the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services during the Obama administration.

“I Choose Us” is available in a secular and Christian versions.